For the past week, I had a sore gum at the right side of my lips. It was painful. A simple smile made me want to say all curses, and eating was torture. It was like that for like five days.
When it began to dry up and heal, the pain was still there, of course, but I could feel the pain getting less. But the pain I "learned," made me fear it nonetheless.
Even when I don't have it, brushing my teeth makes me remember the torturous pain.
It was "just" sore gum.
The fear it created is still there.
And unlearning that will take a while.
Just like in life.
I don't know the solution to this. But if you continue to stay in that state of fear, you will get nowhere.
By not risking on something, you are actually risking everything.